Fri 2 Nov 2007
Soooo glad to be an American!
Posted by Nette @ Smiling Mom under In the media
(And if you know me, you know I just can’t not comment, so my comments will be italicized for your viewing pleasure!)
Saudi Marriage ‘Expert’ Advises Men in ‘Right Way’ to Beat Their Wives
He’s Saudi author and cleric, “Dr.” Muhammad Al-’Arifi, who in a remarkable segment broadcast on Saudi and Kuwaiti television in September, counseled young Muslim men on how to treat their wives.
“Admonish them – once, twice, three times, four times, ten times,” he advised. “If this doesn’t help, refuse to share their beds.”
And if that doesn’t work?
“Beat them,” one of his three young advisees responded. (wtf??)
“That’s right,” Al-’Arifi said.
He goes on to calmly explain to the young men that hitting their future wives in the face is a no-no. (well, thank goodness!)
“Beating in the face is forbidden, even when it comes to animals,” he explained. “Even if you want your camel or donkey to start walking, you are not allowed to beat it in the face. If this is true for animals, it is all the more true when it comes to humans. So beatings should be light and not in the face.” (seriously??!!)
His final words of wisdom?
“Woman, it has gone too far. I can’t bear it anymore,” he tells the men to tell their wives. “If he beats her, the beatings must be light and must not make her face ugly.
“He must beat her where it will not leave marks. He should not beat her on the hand… He should beat her in some places where it will not cause any damage. He should not beat her like he would beat an animal or a child – slapping them right and left. (Ya, beat that child wayyyy more, please!)
“Unfortunately, many husbands beat their wives only when they get mad, and when they start beating, it as if they are punching a wall – they beat with their hands, right and left, and sometimes use their feet. Brother, it is a human being you are beating. This is forbidden. He must not do this.” (????????!!!!)
(Now you have it husbands, for the love of God, don’t beat us in the face, treat us with dignity and respect, beat us like you would a human, not an animal or child!!)

November 2nd, 2007 at 12:26 pm
Thanks for the advice. I’ll try this out tonight when I get home.
November 2nd, 2007 at 1:27 pm
I never beat my wife more than my camel!
November 2nd, 2007 at 6:27 pm
He started to make a good point about how men should stop sharing their wife’s bed and then went off on a crazy tangent.
He should have stuck with the “how to get your man out of bed” tip because I’da ate that one up.
November 4th, 2007 at 5:32 am
Ick poo
November 4th, 2007 at 8:47 pm
I just want to smack him!
November 5th, 2007 at 10:28 am
I am smiling with you - at the potty training and at the post - so cute! See ya.
November 12th, 2007 at 8:37 pm
Wow! I would think even in the Middle East, this kind of thinking would be gone by now. CRAZY!