Don’t we all smile some­ti­mes when we’re screa­ming inside? We want ever­yone to believe we know what we are doing and everything is fine. Just fine. Right? Me too. But not here. This site is my escape. My place to be myself.

Smi­ling Mom, the woman:

I am straight for­ward, down to earth, and willing to tell it like it is. Since tur­ning thirty, I’ve taken an inte­rest in bet­te­ring myself. In Feb. 2007 I began blog­ging to keep my mind fresh and to con­nect with other moms.

I have a few friends, many acquain­tan­ces, and some who, well… just dis­like me. I am who I am. If you ask me a ques­tion, I’m inc­li­ned to tell you the truth. If I ask, “Does my butt look big in this?” I actually want to know the ans­wer. If I want you to give me a com­pli­ment, I’ll usually say, “OK, I’m asking for a com­pli­ment here.…”

I like to know what is ahead. I’m usually a team pla­yer and I’m honest. I don’t have a ton of social gra­ces, although I’m lear­ning. I don’t like to be extra polite and I don’t love small talk because I feel fake when doing it. But I’m trying.…

I’m proud of the family my hus­band and I’ve crea­ted. We are not per­fect. We disa­gree and debate with the best of them. But as the years go on, we con­ti­nue to learn how to nego­tiate, dis­cuss, and come to a rea­so­na­ble solu­tions to our pro­blems. We are a good team.

You should know that I’m madly in love with my hero of a hus­band. Each day he stands up for what he belie­ves in, for your and my free­dom. He is also so inte­lli­gent and an ama­zing lea­der. But what stri­kes me as his best qua­lity is his com­pas­sion for others. He’s a co-founder of a foun­da­tion to help kids with can­cer. He dona­tes his time to help others less for­tu­nate than us, and he never feels like he’s done enough. In all mea­nings of the word, he’s is a giver. I really luc­ked out when I became his RA in the college dorms!

Smi­ling Mom, the teacher:

I’m a kick-ass second and third grade teacher. Right now I work two days a week and have a team part­ner who teaches the other three. She is also an ama­zing teacher, so together the kids really get a great edu­ca­tion. I’m a pretty good math teacher, and a decent Lan­guage Arts and Science teacher, but my strengths lay in deve­lo­ping social skills and inde­pen­dence. I don’t baby the kids, and hold them accoun­ta­ble for their actions. And I love them while I do it.

I’m never, ever above making a fool of myself for the sake of teacha­ble moment. There are some lear­ning acti­vi­ties that make me ‘dance’. Let me explain. An exam­ple of this is when I teach the won­der­fully com­pli­ca­ted skill of roun­ding, ex. 35 rounds to 40, I teach them a chant, “Zero to four-you get no more, Five to nine-move up one time.” I dance.

Let’s just say that my stu­dents are the only ones who ever see me dance. Oh except for that one time when two prin­ci­pals wal­ked into my class while I was deep into my Elaine, from Sein­feld, dance moves. Ahem… there was that one time. But never again. I dance for my stu­dents and my stu­dents alone!

Smi­ling Mom, the mom:

Being a mom is my big­gest joy, and my har­dest challenge.

I’m pretty honest with my expe­rien­ces. If I was asked about any of the follo­wing topics, I’d have to say:

My kids did not sleep throughout the night for the first year of their lives.

I rou­ti­nely wear glo­ves when I change dia­pers because I think poop is disgusting.

I’ll tell you that it many, many days to bond with my son, BC, who was my first child.

And it took even lon­ger to bond with my daugh­ter, eClaire, my second.

I’ll tell you the truth. Moms often say smile and say that everything is just fine. But if you are a blog­ging mom, then you’re pro­bably in the ranks with me. We know the truth! We smile in public, then sit down at our com­pu­ters and blog.

BC

My son is bri­lliant. I know, I know all moms say that, but I’m pretty sure it’s true. (Which is also something all mom’s say.) And it sca­res me. At two and a half my dad pla­yed a game with BC, Who’s Mis­sing. He’d quickly name six of the seven peo­ple in the house, and ask, Who’s Mis­sing? BC would ins­tantly replied with the right ans­wer. Repe­ti­ti­vely. Each time my dad asked, the names were mixed up and a dif­fe­rent per­son was left out. He got it every time. This is just one exam­ple of his power­ful mind.

Oh, and he gets many, many time outs. :-) He has quite an inde­pen­dent streak and doesn’t like to be told what to do!

eClaire

My daugh­ter, is ama­zing. Aside from being bright, she is beau­ti­ful and funny. I tend to call her my sky-diver. She will be the child who drags dear Smi­ling Mom out of a plane some­day. She’s shy in social situa­tions until she feels com­for­ta­ble. But she’s adven­tu­rous. She began craw­ling up lad­ders at the play­ground before she could walk. She loves to jump off of chairs, because of course, someone will catch her! She loves her mom. But she goes abso­lu­tely ape over her daddy. Having a daugh­ter is good, so good.

But… she sno­res like a truc­ker and whi­nes uncon­tro­llably when I refuse to hold her. Grr.

So there you have it. Me, in a nutshell.